Friendship

You know, as a friend, it is important to be there for your friends when they need a shoulder to lean on. But if there is someone in your life who is never around except when they need a shoulder...that's not a friend. I suggest that you stop sympathizing with their selfish asses ASAP and tell them to fuck off and solve their own damn problems. Not your friend, not your problem. And don't let them make you feel like a jerk either. Fuck them. Listening to someone bitch all the time and not getting anything in return is like working a job with no pay. And don't think of it as volunteer work either, cuz even those have benefits. I have had people in my life who would call me at four in the morning telling me they are lonely and depressed, yet when I want to do something fun, or talk about something, they don't wanna hear it. And I'll admit. I put up with it longer than I should have. Because I thought that was what friendship was. Sticking with someone no matter what. But it's not. You may as well rip out your brain and hand out peaces of it to every Whiney McBitch-face that comes along.

Here are some tell tale signs that you should walk away from a person....
-The person only talks about themselves
-They are always "unavailable" when you want to hang out
-They always seem to be causing themselves trouble and never really look for a way to get out of it.
-They always downplay your troubles with theirs.
-They've never done anything for you.
-They insist that you drop other plans to "help" them cuz they "have nobody else to turn to"
-You find yourself worrying about the person constantly.

This doesn't mean that you shouldn't listen when a friend comes to you for help. But if you feel like you are giving a lot more than you are getting, just take a moment and decide whether this person has earned your sympathy or not. Life is too short to waste on these people.

You need to get this one thing through your head first...THEY DON'T CARE!!! These people have ways of making you feel more important to their life than you really are. They can make you feel like you are their only hope and if you walk away, they are going to "kill themselves" or anything drastic like that. Don't put anything like that on yourself. I can tell you now, it's not true. You need to understand what suicide really is. Suicide is something caused by a mental disorder, which is a chemical imbalance in the brain. No one person can make or stop a person wanting to commit suicide. If you deeply and seriously believe that this person is going to so something drastic, there are hotlines. But let me tell you, I knew a person who committed suicide and he had very loving friends. So don't let them tell you that you are the only thing standing between life and death. In fact, putting that kind of pressure on you is further proof that they are no friend of yours. It's mean, manipulative, and deceitful. You don't need this sort of poison in your life. It will make you feel mentally tired and stressed.
Now that I've made that clear, don't let physical intimidation get to you either. Again, it's usually a bluff. I only add that because I had a guy threaten to kill me if I wouldn't unblock him from AIM. Weird, right?
Friends are very very important. Don't let people taint the name of friendship so they can use you as a punching bag. Unless you are into that sort of thing. Then by all means, go ahead...punching bag.